Saturday, January 28, 2012

25 and counting..

As you grow and traverse through various paths in years, you expect to grow in many ways, to see people and learn or unlearn, to make some mistakes ( or many) and either learn from it or ignore it

As I turn 25, I am plainly surprised at the like minded characters I have met so far. By no means, I am trying to put them into buckets as each are one unique gem in its own worth. But, the similarity is striking and fascinating. So many tunes and shades – yet they are all being the same.

In this world I live in today, every single thing works on a business possibility.People have a value life and once their value is over, they are no longer used.They are not exactly thrown away too. They become friends on Facebook, thekinds you do not bother to "like" even if they own a Booker Prize.

I can count with one hand the number of sensible, generous and smart ( I tell you, this is a very rare combination ) I have met baring the usualsuspects of family. And to that, I add the ones with personality, spunk and attitude – it is not even a legible number to write down. The illusions we get on people and emotions as children are plainly illegible to survive in this big bad world.

Love - Oh, love is the most highly traded commodity. It merely moves from one place to another with eye glances, unspoken words and crappy internet romantic lines. It means convenience, comfort, a cushy wallet, a stable job and some basic looks. There is hardly any courage in acceptance, dignity in behaviour in most relationships. Add to it, the moral policing nazis - who take it as their birth right to comment on every single relationship change you go through. It is not exactly happy, or even appealing to one's own heart.

It is only a matter of how well you can make things happen with each other. If you succeed in making life simple, then it works. Else, it does not.

Friendship – The F word in my own dictionary. I mean, it is SO hugely abused and I will plainly walk straight with love for this story. If love says highly traded, this is the combination that gives the most pennies. A profit in getting a cup of coffee, to a free ride for a few years in others lives. And after Facebook made its way, the word merely means “anyone you see for 120 seconds or sees you for 180 seconds”. Italso means, you allow that person to access your life – past, present and future and all that you will mostly get back is a tag. Or may be, may be a like.

If you disagree with it and are lucky enough to still continue and exist in 2012 with a handful of friends, you are lucky.Lottery winning types. Even Casino types.

Parents/Relatives – Merely a visiting card to grow on. I am sick of the number of "kids" who used an uncle or a dad to get a internship, a job and a admission. It is probably remorse that I do not have high profile relatives to itch me a favor but in all honesty, people like me are glad we do not have them. It is one thing to have contacts and get information and act smartly. It is an entirely different thing to get guidance and fall back as a pillow.

I should write an entire post on the parents bit. It has irked at people like me for such a long time, and I hardly see any noise made about it. I am no judge to pass my statements and make an entire world go by it. At the same time, I am no soul to simply ride on opportunities and live with my own world in my head we well. I refuse to be that way. For, still there lies a world where such things matter. It still does.

This post by no means was written in a bad mood, or a wrong day. It is a mere culmination of how things are around every one of us. I just decided to call a spade as one.

I realize this is not the first time I feel this way; Here is another post on a similar note.

20 comments:

  1. Hello buddy..my name starts with y...read your 25 and still counting...it was good...i am also on the 25 pedal....as far my experiences are concerned....life has always been fair to me, even when i was not the same with it ,always.Well i had been a voracious reader since long i knew myself and the world around me...still i had the privelege to meet and have conversations with the minds that bowled me over...made me love them...i had learnt that its an ecstatic and a supersexy feeling to be in a relationship with a partner that has got beauty and brains...and that only other important thing which i think is to be proactive...to take chances...to get it....to feel it..to live life...my name ends with h..simply its yashwanth.cheers.

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  2. Hey Y...h :)good for you ! people, conversations esp with the good ones are a rarity, treasure them! cheers!

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  3. Archana, this was a soothing read. Helped me connect at many levels. A profound read.

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  4. hi... read your 25 and counting and enjoyed it, kind of realistic the way you have portrayed the "love and friendship" . when a person talks like that people make him feels like that he is a cynic . I want to add one thing here that the real problem is not with the love or friendship or any rlation , the fault is within the people.they are the ones who have made it what it is and that is because they don't have the reasons for whatever they do and if you ask them why they really love that person they will say love is unreasonable and it makes you do stupid things.the reality is that people are stupid , not the love ...love is just the execuse for them ....love is reasonable albeit in a mysterious way...

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    1. Hello! I agree. As I say, it is all a farce to cover up our material/emotional gains.

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  5. sure....its my pleasure..y2h

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  6. A beautifully written thought provoking post...congratulations on turning 25 :)

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    1. You are the first to congratulate me for this :) Thanks for coming by!

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  7. Came across your blog via Chintan. Good post...you covered everything, may not be in deep but enough to convey the point across. Happy 25...:)

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    1. Thanks Prashanth! I agree, it has not covered it all. Just a blurb of thoughts.

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  8. Happy 25, albeit a few days late.

    "It is only a matter of how well you can make things happen with each other. If you succeed in making life simple, then it works. Else, it does not."

    Well said, without all the gloss that is usually associated with it.

    Though you made it clear that this wasn't written in a bad mood or on a wrong day, going by your other posts, looks like this was written by your alter ego - the usually peppy self was missing.

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    1. Thanks :) Peppy girl is back. Check latest post :) Your comment made me smile!

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  9. Superb writing ...worth reading can easily connect :)

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    1. Thank you! And I was afraid no one will understand this PoV :)

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