I may not be competent enough, age wise to write on this. But as a representative of a generation of women that is struggling among men and motherhood, I have something to say. These are purely my views based on years of living with men, and mothers. It can be very contradictory, idiotic and refreshing to hear.
There are enough scriptures to speak on the duality of mankind - the symbolization of a man in a woman and a woman in a man. Somehow my last few days have been drowned in identifying the innate women tendencies in manly men. When I say tendencies, I only mean the inner thoughts - like motherhood.
I have noticed feminism in many men, and have seen them explicitly portray it. It is sadly been seen today as a cross over their attitudes, and men are labelled "soft", if not gay. We have some inhibitions in our head, that needs to be desperately broken. It should be found okay to have a guy mother a baby. I am not talking about changing diapers or dropping them off in school. I am talking about staying with his spouse when she delivers, not due to medical compulsions but due to a inner pull that makes him want to see the child. I am not talking about giving roses on valentine day or buying a teddy bear. It is about holding the ladle when she cannot. Oh, I am not giving a lecture on modern men who share household duties. I am telling about not making it a duty, but making it a way of life.
A very childish thought: When it is okay to have a manly woman ( the one who can work night shifts and earn - technically, manly stuff) , why is it not okay to have a womanly man ( the one who will sew my button when my little one rushes to school)?
I was put to thoughts when my sister recently delivered a girl child, and her husband was asked to be out of the room when she fed the baby for the first time. Why is motherhood restricted to women? Because only she can hold the womb, or because men are not competent?